Well, the ex is on a rampage again. He pretty much told me that I have exhausted his patience and that he will come and go as he pleases.

Yeah.

So, I was a bit upset yesterday, of course. One good thing is that it spurred me to get those damn papers typed up nice and neat and notarized, so we are good to go. I just need to find someone to serve them to the ex.

I was thinking about Doug, and I talked to Dave about it last night and I don't think I will ask him. So, I will go the route of having the sheriff do it, even though it will cost me $50 to do so. Well worth the money, I think. So, I need to figure out how to do that. I guess a few phone calls are in order today.

The filing fee went up to $400 and ex said he would pay half, but I highly doubt he will at this point. At least not until he is calmed down a bit.

I also stopped by Fleet Farm and picked up some chain locks for my front and back door. And another lock for my patio door. They won't do any good when I am not home, of course, but it's added security for when I AM home. It sounds like ex is planning on getting in the house one way or another, so I am prepared for when I am home. And if he tries to get in while I am home, I will not hesitate to call 911.

Dave called me last night and he said he could tell that I was scared, even though I didn't say a word. Ex is coming over today sometime to get the lawn mower and I wonder if he will try to get in then. I would not be surprised if, when I get home, I find the house broken into. And there is not a damn thing I can do about it. He had the law on his side this time, unfortunately. He IS half owner of the house.

Then he was going on and on about how I wasted years of his life with my lies and how I was fooling around on him for years and years, which is NOT true, of course. However a mutual "friend" told him something a few months ago that I was fooling around with HIM for years (why he said that, I have NO idea) and of course the ex believed him and no matter how much I deny it, the ex will not believe me. And that's fine. It does not matter at all. I KNOW the truth and it really does not matter what anyone else thinks. The truth is that I did NOT do this, but of course NOW that I have a new boyfriend, the ex believes what he wants. And if it makes him feel better that I am such a dishonest person, well, more power to him. I don't give a rat's ass. Again, it does not matter in the scheme of things. However, this "friend" will not be trusted ever again. It's all collateral damage, I guess.

Anyway, so I felt better after installing these additional security measures and then I had to run to Sam's for her birthday dinner. That was fun. Just time to relax in a house I feel welcome in and with friends who are totally MINE and not Jim's. I did tell them about what was going on and I got the support I was looking for, so I felt better.

AND, of course there was the added bonus of having Ms. Alex jumping all over me, so excited to see Grandma Paula and, of course, being able to rummage through my purse, which is something she has ALWAYS loved to do. And she found some lollipops that Grandma said she could have, so that made HER day!!! Too funny!!!

AND, if THAT wasn't enough, I got to hold and cuddle a three week old baby. Baby Tanner took a nap on Grandma's chest, with his little legs all curled up like a frog. Too damn cute!!! His other grandma, Shirley, was there and even she didn't want to take the baby from me since he looked so comfortable on me. I offered, but she declined. So, it's all good!!!!

I got home around 8:30, played on Facebook for a while, adding more pictures, and then went to bed. Dave called me around 10:00 or so and we gabbed for an hour while he was driving home from his last appointment. HE was doing really good, having sold FIVE units that day. Woot!!! I was happy for him because he as starting to become Mr. Negative about sales, seeing as how he made no sales last week and his first two appointments this morning said no.

See, what he does is sell water softening systems. These systems are NOT cheap, and in this economy, it's harder to get people to say yes to spending sometimes $5000 for water softeners and drinking water systems. But, Dave is a GREAT salesman, in fact, he alone raised his territory sales up to Number THREE in the whole country for sales. (They have no other salesman in his territory, so he did it alone.)

anyway, so he's good at what he does.

And he, more than any other man I know, is SO sensitive to the fact that if he does not sell anything for a few days, then he gets depressed about it. That's when Mr. Negative comes in. I always tease him that whenever Mr. Negative comes along, that's when he hits the big sales. So, yesterday, he sells FIVE units. That's a huge sale in one day.

Anyway, Dave has another appt this morning, so I was "ordered" to come over for coffee this morning to help him get his day started. It's nice to have a cup of Joe with him in the morning and talk about our days.

I woke up this morning, feeling like SHIT! My stomach was upset due to the stress of having the ex threatening me again. I did not want to go to work, I felt so sick. I almost called in but I made myself get going since I know the ex will be coming to get the mower today and I DO NOT want to be there when he does.

Whatever.

I am just tired right now. This is even affecting Dave. He had a bad dream last night about fighting with someone, and, gee, I wonder who that could have been? I know he wants to protect me, but there is only so much he can do. He's gone quite a bit AND it's not his problem.

He did tell me that if he was home today when the ex showed up, he is going to go outside and watch him and hope he threatens HIM again so he can call the cops and get a restraining order against him and so, since he lives right next door to ME, the ex will not even be able to come to MY house since it is so close. THAT would be nice. However, I don't think it will happen.

Dave wants me to go to the cops today after work and talk to them about what the ex is doing. I know that EX is pretty smart about NOT really threatening me, so I really have NOTHING that I can get a restraining order on. NOTHING. It's all veiled threats, and there is nothing there that actually is actionable.

Anyway, so I will talk to the cops and see what they say.

Jenner just called me and we gabbed for a LONG time, so I need to end this and get my butt moving and do some actual WORK!!!

Have a great day!

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