Just a quick update on the JIM situation.

I did not give him a key.

He emailed me and asked me if I had a key ready for him.

I sent a message back saying that I did, but that I wanted him to sign over the car to me first and to reassure me that he would NOT come over unless he gave me a few hours notice and to let me know what he takes out of the house so I know what is gone.

I then asked him to bring back the lawn mower, the trimmer, the leaf blower, and the push broom, as I would need these things this weekend.

He did not email me back for HOURS.

I figured I pissed him off!!!

And I think I did. But I also think he took the time to call his attorney (of which I still don't think he retained, and I will tell you why in a moment) to ask what he can do about it if I don't give him a key.

In the meantime, I was feeling pretty good about not having to give him a key and I talked to my friend, Doug, who said that if he asks AGAIN for a key, I should tell him that I want the request in writing, from his attorney, and stating the MN statute that requires that I give him a key to my residence.

So, that was the plan.

Oh, and we talked about a restraining order, too, if he came back at me with more nasty emails.

About the hours later, I got a response from Jim. He stated that we need to talk about things. And that he would be happy to bring the mower, etc back tonight, and that we can talk, and he can get the key then. And he said that we can do the paperwork and filing ourselves instead of using an attorney.

Okay. I called his bluff and he backed off. He was just blowing smoke up my ass.

So, anyway, he agreed to sign off on the title to the car as long as I didn't go after HIS vehicles.

Okay. He has a car. Which I don't want since I don't want to deprive HIM of a vehicle. He has a motorcycle which I can't drive. And he has an old pick up truck which is a stick shift and I never did learn how to drive it. Why would I want those things? I don't.

so, I told him the above and then I said that he could keep the mower and stuff until Monday since I didn't need the lawn mowed right now anyway and he said his did. He just hasn't had time to do it yet. (Why not? He isn't working!!!) Oh, and I told him that as far as the rest of the stuff goes, I need to think about them for a while.

Anyway, so he is all nice and sweet now and willing to work with me.

Just like any other bully. You stand up to them and they back down.

So, he does NOT have a key and I am not going to give him one.

I have the divorce papers here and I filled them out the best I could tonight. There are some questions that he needs to answer and I will get those to him tomorrow. There are a ton of papers to fill out and I got them all done in a short amount of time.

I feel so much better just having the security of knowing he will not be able to get into the house and that I don't have to deal with him having a key. And I feel better knowing that the papers are not that hard and I am nearly done with them.

I got an email from him at home that stated that he wants the divorce started and that he will share the filing costs with me. He also sent me some links to websites to get the papers.

I sent an answer back telling him that I have had the papers for MONTHS and that they are all filled out with a few blanks of things he needs to answer.

Anyway, so that is what I did tonight. And my security is back in my own hands again.

Lovely!!!!!

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