Hey!! It's been a LONG while since I have been on here. Thought I would just do a little update on what's going on in my neck of the woods.

First of all, the divorce is coming along quite nicely now.

I have had a court date, in which we scheduled a hearing for the final divorce due to the disputes.

Well, Jim thought it would be nice to tell the judge that our issues are not that great and we could probably settle our differences through mediation.

so, he looked like the reasonable person in front of the judge, which I did not like since HE was the one that was disputing things, after having agreed to everything previously.

So, whatever.

Last Tuesday we had mediation. The guy charged an arm and a leg for it, of course. And Jim and I had to be separate rooms due to the restraining order, which was perfectly fine with me. If I had been in the same room with Jim, I probably would have caved on the issues at hand, just because that is the way I have been trained by Jim. To just go along with whatever he wants.

So, it worked out great, for me, anyway.

Jim was still holding onto the idea that he wanted us to sell the house through a realtor, however that is not practical, given the mortgage amount, the assessment that needs to be paid, and now the lien that was placed on the house due to Jim's deadbeatedness. (Yes, I coined a new word!!!)

So, in the end, what swayed him was the fact that I had two friends who are appraisers, who had done an informal appraisal on the house, stating that the market value was actually less than the mortgage amount and we would lose our shirts on it if we went through a realtor, when I already had a buyer that was willing to pay the whole mortgage amount.

The mediator explained to Jim that if it went to court, a judge would side with me on this issue. So, Jim finally relented.

Oh, and Jim also wanted some of his personal items back. Well, duh!! Apparently these things mean SO MUCH to him. Well, I had tried to get him to come get his stuff for a LONG time but he refused, telling me it was on HIS TIMEFRAME, and not mine. Well, guess what, buddy? It's now on MY timeframe. And the mediator agreed with me and Jim is going to do a walk through of the house when I say he can, bringing with him my son-in-law to supervise. Jim is only allowed to make a list of items he wants and then I have final say in it.

God, I love being in charge for a change!!!

Oh, and he wanted the restraining order lifted.

Yeah, right. Like THAT'S gonna happen.

Jim stated that he doesn't like not being able to go to my family functions if I am attending.

Well, I am sorry, but that is NOT my fault. He is the one that forced me to take the step in getting a restraining order against him. Not my fault.

So, no. I am not taking that bitch off of him.

He is concerned also that it might show up in a background check when he looks for another job. He is still unemployed, apparently. I am SO glad that I dumped him before he lost this last job. It's been a year since he lost it and I could not handle going through his unemployment yet AGAIN!!

Besides, I paid hundreds of dollars for that restraining order and if I lifted it and he started harassing me again, I don't want to have to spend that money all over again. That order has kept me feeling secure since last September and I am keeping that security.

So, too bad, Jim. Again, not my fault if it shows up on your background checks. You did it to yourself.

Okay, enough venting about that issue.

Moving on.....

The other big news in my life is that I have now moved my office to my home. I am a telecommuter now and it feels GREAT!!!

All that down time I had previously in my job is now being spent NOT on surfing the internet or reading a book while I await my boss' next orders, but on my HOUSE, in keeping it clean, going through things, fixing it up, spending time with my animals, etc. It's been great!!! Once I got back the computer issues I had the first two weeks, everything is going great and things are looking up.

I have had friends over during the day for coffee and smokes and it's really nice to get my home stuff done in between work, so that my evenings and weekends are more free and I can spend my off hour time NOT cleaning, but relaxing and enjoying my friends.

The other important stuff going on in my life is my relationship with Dave has progressed. We are discussing, just the beginning phases, of course, moving in together. But, again, it's early for that and there is no rush at all. Things are fine the way they are, and frankly, I SO enjoy having my own home to go to at the end of the day if I wish. So not ready for a total commitment regarding moving in together.

Again, there is no rush. If it's REAL, it will still be there later.

Well, time to see if I can scare up some work. I already have done a bit of work around the house this morning and am feeling the need to do some WORK work. LOL

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